A year later, I didnt miss the site at all, but needed an account for work to manage the Guardians technology page, amongst other things. So I made a new one, with accurate, but minimal info. In the end, I had to enter my real name, real email address, and real phone number, to get on the site.
Because I didnt want to actually use the site to speak to people, I locked down my privacy settings. My profile wouldnt show up in search unless someone was a friend of a friend (so, in practice, it wouldnt show up at all), and no-one could add me as a friend unless they were a friend of a friend (again, in practice, a blanket block).
In October, that all changed. Facebook rolled out an update to its internal search engine, letting users search the entire network for the first time. All public posts became searchable for everyone, but private posts werent affected. When it made the change, though, the social network also removed a privacy setting entirely: its now not possible to choose to hide your profile from strangers.
Every profile on Facebook now shows up when users search for it by name, even those, like mine, with the tightest possible settings, no friends in common, no profile picture, and no content posted. Worse, if you then click on the profile, a large amount of information is still public: any page Ive liked, any group Ive joined, and, if I had any, every friend I have on the site.
And although I cant be added as a friend by strangers thanks to the requirement that they be a friend of a friend I can be followed by them, letting them be notified of any future posts. Thats because, helpfully, the ability to turn off that feature isnt under privacy but under a different tab Followers.
In the meantime, Facebook has also managed to use the sparse information about me to fill my entire suggested friends column with people I actually know in real life, including such distant connections as my step-fathers niece (step-cousin?), the man who ran a book group I went to in 2013, and the journalist who sits behind me in the office. Despite the fact that a privacy setting means that only friends can look me up using the email address and phone number provided, the company still feeds the information into its matching algorithms, meaning its able to connect me in its own database with any other user who has uploaded their address book to the site.
Theres a name for this sort of layout: anti-patterns. Facebook can truthfully say that it does what it promises, and even offers settings that let people lock-down their own accounts, while designing the site so even internet-savvy users like me will end up exposing information we never intended to make public.
Perhaps thats why Facebook acted so quickly to kill a story that it was using location data as part of the find friends feature (it initially said it was, then recanted and said that the data was only used for a short test). The company doesnt need information given unwillingly, when so many users end up giving it unknowingly. So, not for the first time: check your Facebook settings. You may be surprised.
I was expecting this: shortly after publishing this piece, a helpful comment on Twitter pointed out you can, in fact, hide friend requests. They didnt know how to do it, though.
It turns out the option to hide who youre friends with isnt under Privacy in the settings page. Nor is it in the settings page at all. Instead you have to navigate to your own profile page thats reached by hitting your posts in the left sidebar on the homepage then click on Friends. Once the friends tab is open, there should be two buttons: Find Friends, and Edit Privacy. Click on edit privacy, and you have two more options, letting you control who can see your friends list.
Oh: If you already have some friends, the edit privacy button disappears. Instead, youll see three buttons: Find Friends, Friend Requests, and a pencil icon. Click the pencil icon, and the option to Edit Privacy appears in a drop-down menu.